Don’t Waste Your Singleness

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Today is Valentine’s Day, a day to celebrate the powerful emotion called love. People spend over $14 billion each year to celebrate the holiday with that “special someone” by making dinner, writing poems, sending cards, dressing up, calling loved ones, and buying flowers, chocolate, or overstuffed animals.

But what about those of us who are single? Should Valentine’s Day (or Singles Awareness Day as some jokingly call it) be a sad, depressing, or anxious day? Not at all! In fact, it’s a unique and exciting stage in your life. Many single people waste their singleness moping around, worrying about finding a boyfriend/girlfriend, or trying to impress those around them. Rarely do people define themselves by their singleness. It’s odd that our culture seems to place marital statuses into a hierarchy that places marriage as higher up than singleness. In contrast, singleness has its perks like flexibility, fewer financial commitments, & spontaneity.

Here are several ways you can avoid wasting your singleness:        

  • Go on an adventure
    Climb a mountain, visit Europe, take a road trip, attend a major sporting event, or go on a mission trip. With the flexibility singleness offers, it is easy to find time to do any of these things on a break from school or during your vacation time for work. It is one of the few times (if not the only time) when you are able to decide one day “I’m going to go to [insert place here] next week” and do it without having to worry about finding a babysitter, arranging for multiple people to travel, or anything else. You can literally pack your bags and go.
  • Improve yourself
    As a single person, you have a quite a bit of personal time. Don’t spend it sitting on the couch playing video games or watching TV (or worse wallowing  in single self-pity). Instead take the opportunity to make yourself a better person. Find something you’re passionate about (for example theology) and study it. Set some personal fitness goals for yourself. Learn another language. Volunteer with Boys Club, Girls Club, your church, or any other non-profit organization. Work on fixing any character flaws or bad personal habits you have. The possibilities are endless! And who knows, you might even meet a potential boyfriend/girlfriend while you’re at it.
  • Build up your savings
    For most single people, the only individual they are responsible for supporting is themselves. Most people leave college with a lot of debt and not a lot of savings, so if you’re single, use the time to pay off your debt and build your savings up. If you work somewhere that offers benefits like retirement withholding, take maximum advantage of them. Once you have a little bit saved up, start finding ways to invest it such as CDs, stocks, bonds, and other marketable securities. When you do have a family, you will thank your single self that you set aside some money.
  • Take some risks
    This may seem like a counter intuitive point to the last point, but don’t be afraid to try some new things. I wouldn’t encourage you to do anything dumb, but do think about taking some smart risks. If you’re fresh out of college and have a great idea, start a business. Should the company succeed, it will allow you to build up some savings and help you learn some valuable skills for later in life. If it fails, it may have some adverse effects on you, but it’s not like you have a family to provide for, so it’s relatively easy to recover. If business isn’t your thing, get involved with a cause that will allow you to go to places in the world that you can make a big difference, but may involve some personal risk. Whatever your passion is, don’t be afraid to step outside of your comfort zone.

As you can see, singleness doesn’t have to be a time of loneliness, instead it could be a great time to do things you might not be able to do ever again in life. Live your life and eventually you will meet that guy or girl that will be a great fit for you. Then you’ll get to begin the adventure known as marriage. This Valentine’s Day, don’t waste your singleness any longer, but view at as a great opportunity to make some memories and improve yourself.

If you have any other ideas of how not to waste singleness, share them in the Comments below.

Learn It. Love It. Live It.

Happy Valentine’s Day!

[image credit: Nathan Proudlove on Flickr]


About Lawson Hembree
Lawson is an entrepreneur, ministry leader, and outdoors enthusiast who also enjoys blogging about business, ideas, and theology. Want to continue the discussion or write a guest post? Let's Connect!

3 Responses to Don’t Waste Your Singleness

  1. This is great, Lawson! I know that I definitely wasted a bunch of my “singleness” time in college. I really wish I would’ve taken that time to surround myself with uplifting, solid people. I am thankful, though, that I got really involved at school. (Some could argue that I could’ve done that even if I hadn’t been single. But still…) I wouldn’t trade my awesome boyfriend for singleness, but if I were single I would definitely be doing more of the things you talked about rather than sit around being sad. It really is so beneficial to make the most of your time and do things that will build you up!

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